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What You Should Speak

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I tell my opinion quite often whether people want to hear it or not. That is probably not the best idea nor would I tell others to try it. Much thought goes into to whom, about what, why and when I give my opinion. I also get yelled at a lot for giving my opinion. On the other hand I do get a lot of other people’s opinion about me. There are times I disagree with their opinion as their are times the disagree with mine. However what is most important I take time to hear and fully understand it. Questions are not optional when you are wanting to completely know what is being talked about. Furthermore, compassion, empathy and caring are essential, know your audience and your opinion will be well regarded.

-Jennie Nawrocki

Healthy

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Night after night we refresh ourselves through sleep. We give ourselves energy through eating and exercise. We enhance our brains through work and education. This is the only way to live. Just choose the healthy diet.

-Jennie Nawrocki

Stepping in Time Zones

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History tells a story of what went wrong and what went right. The butterfly effect doesn’t always occur quickly but when it does your realization is memorable. You personality, true character is formed from these conscious and unconscious acknowledgements. To capture this takes abilities unimaginable and to portray it takes a team and individual fortitude. However to do the same by telling the future fortune of the world takes bravery and strength. All of you at the Oscars have achieved this and I am proud of you regardless of who you are.

-Jennie Nawrocki

Till Next Time

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Once the Olympics are missing I feel a little empty until the next Olympics. I know this year I may not have been as into it as in past Olympics but goodness gracious they are the number 1 sport in my mind and I have no problems telling people, sorry but I am busy watching the Olympics. To all the athletes and supporters you are everything I admire and my heroes.

-Jennie Nawrocki

Words

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It has been suggested and hinted that there are several things I would like to do, maybe the same goes for you too. However some of them are just downright disgusting illegal or plain and simple not within my moral and ethical boundaries. It could be as simple as smoking a cigarette which I tried and got real sick from, disgusting, then years later I smoked a cigar with friends and it went better because you don’t inhale just kinda suck with a whole bunch a smoke filling the room but still I look back and found that one experience to be more enjoyable with the company I kept rather than the cigar I smoked because I still have not smoked one since. The peer pressure made me try but yet come to find out it really was not my thing or desire to smoke. These things are ok maybe to try but like I said earlier they are really cancer sticks.

There are other things that may look like you are going here or doing this and friends supposedly tease you or tell you to get a rise or all worked up for lack of a better term. We were just teasing it’s all in jest he knows we really don’t mean anything by it. Well we all have been on the receiving end of this banter and well frankly it can be devastating. Maybe someone doesn’t understand it is a joke. I remember once in honors history class one of the popular kids (in my school they were the school government, jocks and smartest kids in school taking all honors classes but yet I was still not apart of that group, school sports were not my thing, I had a performance in the Little Mermaid to worry about) that is besides the point but really it was one of them and the told me we were going to have a quiz that day. I told the people around me and soon the whole entire class thought we were going to have a quiz. People started taking out their books and the worried look on people’s faces somebody even looked like they were going to vomit. We took our grades very serious and in that class quizzes counted as a huge part of the grade. Well the few students in the class that started it were laughing at first very softly and then went outside for while. When the majority of us were inside frantically looking at our notes. Thankfully our school wasn’t like certain cultures that families put a heavy emphasis on academics, could you even attempt to imagine the amount of anxiety the children might be feeling in some other situations. Just as the bell rang the teacher came in followed by them a few seconds later and already the amount of questions about having a quiz filled the room. We didn’t have a quiz and the relief was very apparent on most of the students faces while those few people who started the rumor were in a state of shock, they couldn’t understand how people could believe them. At least that what it seemed they were feeling. See this would be something I categorize as not within my moral or ethical boundaries.

Though it was the impression the thought, the possibility that got people real riled up. Sometimes in school you used to hear the kissing in a tree song (yes I am that old) though schools now I hear kids tease “what are you gay?” I have to interject and say “so what?” Still they would conjure up this image of a person liking another person of the same sex sexually. This gets to be bullying and harassment after awhile. Especially if they start putting up pictures or spreading rumors or make hand gestures or all of the above, while the person saying no is just trying to make them stop and go away. Can you imagine the mental effect of this on a kid after awhile. The student inundated with it day after day. It is completely inappropriate to tease to a point that it is detrimental to someone’s emotional health. Let’s face it kids can be mean, we have all heard of school bullies and most us us have experienced it but for some the culture now is to just hurt those bullying you, you have to fight back even harm them before they can harm you (sounds like that one Tom Cruise movie being wrongly accused of a crime before he possibly even committed it).

I had a conversation with a group of people and they talked like they would prefer to get rid of the weak rather than the bad. The guy seemingly said he would rather have the someone strong who is willing to fight back rather than someone who is weak and not willing to fight. Personally I would take an elderly grandparent who can’t remember a thing but has the most calming generous personality versus someone who is willing to fight all the time. I am not saying standing up for yourself isn’t a bad thing but there are ways to do it with respect and without harming people.

Which is why I don’t trust or want people to have guns no matter who they are or how strong or weak they are. Most scwabbles happen because of words that hurt especially in school shootings. The old saying, words can never hurt is bull honkey. We know words can sting and have a lasting effect so why do we need actual guns, livid words, teasing and harassment is already hurting people especially in a school environments.

Stop guns, stop bullying.

-Jennie Nawrocki

Being a Guest

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There are some things that you do for diplomacy regardless of your background. In Japan you would take off your shoes before entering someone’s home. They of course would offer house slippers if wanted. In India you might not show as much public affection for that is not their culture if I remember correctly. However, if you don’t like the person or want to be where you are then don’t go if you are not going to make any effort in following the customs just as they will do everything they can to make you feel welcome in their home. This is the diplomatic to way street, driven only to obtain a two way passage to community.

-Jennie Nawrocki

Super Bowl

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No I didn’t watch the Super Bowl but some how it affects my schedule for the day. However I do think sportsmanship is everything and will continue on into the Olympics it’s a big week for sports get ready people. Win or lose maybe important but how you play the game, my goodness people it is everything. I stand behind that statement wholeheartedly.

-Jennie Nawrocki

Bad Drunks

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People always wonder why I don’t drink or have the desire to drink. Once my house was broken into and the thieves well I don’t know what they wanted. The things I found missing were batteries, rice, meat, alcohol and my big bag to put it all in. If I remember correctly not so sure about the meat one. However, I wasn’t even phased by the missing alcohol. The only reason I bought it was for guests when they came over and even then most of my guests didn’t drink because I wouldn’t drink. They thought was weird I would drink a glass of juice or tea to their wine or liquor. All about fitting in I guess but they really started to drink mostly non alcoholic beverages around me. I thought it was a kind gesture even though I had the liquor if they wanted. So how did a girl like me whose family has a history of alcoholism (my grand papa did also I heard) end up not liking alcohol, for that exact reason I saw the destruction it could do if used in excess. Here is one specific example of how alcohol has ruined my life.

My sister a known alcoholic, even attended a AA meeting with her once or twice for support because she was a mean vicious drunk. We have had many arguments around her drinking. She knows I don’t like it when she drinks because she can be so mean, she actually apologized once as one of the 12 steps for all of the horrible things she has said to me. Really these statements made by sister when in this mood will, can and are able to beat you down so emotionally that being around her is impossible. So much so her daughter came to me once and asked to live with me. I talked and discussed it with some people but in the end I remember telling her daughter you can’t live me unless I have your mothers approval and I don’t think I will have that. I thought it would ruin our already fragile sister bond that we had. I could see the expression on her face because it was the same I had entering my sisters house what hell do I have to endure today? She over time has reduced her drinking and is a Buddhist and her behavior has improved dramatically because of it. So we stuck with it, but did we really, we all three are living in three different states at the moment. Now I called, emailed, and text’d and told her I was writing this in my blog because I learned the hard way about mentioning something about someone without telling them in person is a bad mistake. So with all honesty my sentiments are still the same I don’t like being around a bad drunk.

-Jennie Nawrocki