Spring is here a new season to be enjoyed. I have seen the flowers growing and the trees budding. In most states picnics and days in parks begin, even a trip or two to the beach when it gets real warm. The states where seasonal affective disorder can take a break. That sun comes out and warms everything. It is a season to behold with every gentle feeling for it is just a beginning.
Been kinda on a garbage kick lately. Don’t get me wrong, my ability to have a messy place is normal, but having tons of trash around is another. Now I grew up in a family where when we went camping everything that went in the fire that didn’t expell huge amounts of toxic gases or need molten lava in order to reach its burning point we burned. We were also that family that had huge burn piles in the back yard for cleared foliage. However if it could be used until it absolutely couldn’t it was. So if it was still in decent shape we gave it to someone who needed it or the Goodwill. It was great being a camping family because all old dishes always had a second chance as camping goods. There was also the possibility that it would be needed for a future project too. We tried to think of every way within reason something could be utilized. I guess you could consider us minimalists because we didn’t have much money we couldn’t and didn’t want to save much stuff. Now the extent of sorting it got more tricky between family members. Once recycling became a big thing there was a wonder, is it actually worth it? Well maybe in the beginning it was expensive if I remember correctly so was the first boom box. Now it has gotten so popular and efficient that cities have mandatory composting receptacles in restaurants and at the curbside of your home. That is right composting is a thing. What is so useful is it allows cities with less need to dig and bring in outside resources and instead become self-sustaining. Imagine all the scenery you enjoy on your afternoon walk even the soil feeding the field came from your dinner scraps, flowers a plenty provided by your breakfast extras. Yes, people it is possible and has been done. So when I look at my room and wonder why I have separate bins for trash I remember Mother Earth. Just as relationships can’t survive take alone or give alone, the environment has to be a reciprocal relationship.
I shan’t say the the hasn’t changed. In the process we are all formulating our 5 or 10 year goals. Supporting others achievements brings out our successes either through the butterfly effect or karma, your choice really. Releasing those inhibitions, secrets and unrefined skills that only stop us completely. I’m am no stranger to facing my demons of today in order to make it to tomorrow. These challenges are our successes, our achieved goals, our future together.
I have talked about love before in several different ways, forms, and levels of strength. However, I don’t think I have combined love to the act of faith or fate or is it hope, positive thinking, well whatever it may be these together have always seem to allude me.
A person in a relationship could think everything was going well until they find out was hiding a bad habit. It could be drugs, hidden bank accounts, secret lovers, or even problems with their health or job. Any one of these things or a combination could hurt a marriage. The unknowing person within the relationship didn’t predict or want it to happen, in fact, they viewed everything as going well. They always thought positive about this significant person in their life and their communication with each other.
So when it comes to positive thinking in this scenario two things were hurt, trust in individuals close to you and faith in humanity in general. Hence, a feeling of great sadness when something is found out.
The remaining question is how does one love that deeply again, if at all? I guess factors like how many times it has happened and the support of people around you. Speaking as one who has been hurt, it is a balance between allowing vulnerability to show one can trust again and general idealism that people want to keep relationships in a very positive way. I would assume it is also the people you are with creating the same disfunctional or increasely healthy interactions. So my question to you is who is in control of the weather in your relationship?